What it feels like when prayers are answered.

I’ve always made mention of the general rule that God always answers prayers. Sometimes the answer is just “no.” But yesterday, I had a prayer answered. . .one that I prayed for diligently for a long while. And I feel rather nonchalant about it.

You look so happy these days

It’s been just shy of a year since I was here in Wisconsin helping my sister and brother-in-law out after the birth of my niece. How things change and how they stay the same!

Getting rid of forever

I’ve thought long and hard about what to do with one aspect still leftover from my former marriage: the wedding ring.

Down and out

This week has been a particularly trying one.  I feel defeated.  It seems like, at the moment, my efforts for many aspects are off-target or in vain.

Guest column: Helping to Heal from Divorce | Washington Times Communities

One of my blurbs got published!  Here’s a link:

Guest column: Helping to heal from divorce | Washington Times Communities.

The Defense Calls the First Witness

Let me not forget:  this upcoming Labor Day weekend will mark one year since my ex-husband and I agreed to separate.   Next weekend, I will see his friends.

What Homer Said to Marge

I was quietly contemplating some very heavy thoughts while I was getting ready for bed this evening and halfway listening to an old episode of The Simpsons.  It was an episode where Marge decides to tell the truth in court, thereby causing Homer to lose a million dollar lawsuit against Mr. Burns. 

I Just Didn’t Know at the Time

One of my favorite quotes about marriage comes from the story/movie Shall We Dance? in which the main character’s wife, Beverly Clark, is dismissing her hired private investigator, satisfied that her husband isn’t cheating:

Blame

I have two more sections to go on this annulment application.  I know the purpose of the application, seeking to find fault, but it seems a little repulsive to me that I am laying blame to things and events in my life.  I don’t like to lay blame in this matter.  Call it my independent spirit, but I feel like I should be accountable for the decisions I’ve made in my life and this petition is taking that spirit away.  In reality, it’s not.  I just find myself more defensive about it asking questions regarding my family, my past.  I have to get over it.  I know it’s necessary but it’s not easy.  It’s not just about what my marriage was, it is about who I am and how I came to be the way I am and that is what affected my marriage.

As for life, it goes on.  I have found some new events occurring in my life that are keeping me joyfully preoccupied.  I feel horrible for trying to move on and simultaneously, I feel very ready to let it be.  There are just two legal obligations that my ex and I have to each other and one of them will soon be over come April 15.  The other is taking much longer than anticipated and it’s becoming increasingly more frustrating, since we both just want to get on with our lives.  So, yes, these latest preoccupations are very much welcomed.  And, according to my family and friends, much deserved.